I read an article recently online from an American man on the website http://www.nomarriage.com … it stated:

Chinese women make much better wives than American women.

  1. An American woman has several fundamental problems that will never go away and that will get much worse a few years after she is married:
  2. Her inherent anti-male bias and pre-occupation with fairness that was drilled into her at high school, college, and through the media. Her constant confrontations and trying to prove herself and to make a point.
  3. Her self-centeredness, her ridiculously high expectations, her sense of entitlement, her high-maintenance, superficial, and stuck up attitude, her snootiness and her sense of superiority. This “princess” syndrome means that she will always think that she is better than you, and that she deserves and she is entitled to whatever she wants from you.
  4. Her general mental instability and psychological disorders.
  5. Her using sex as a weapon and reward to get things.

Chinese women generally don’t have any of these problems.(what ever) Marrying an American woman simply does not make sense. The ONLY reason men stay with American women is because they did not have enough exposure to Chinese women. Any man who spent a few months in Asia will not even look at American women again

Unbelievable…. I was at a loss for words… (temporarily) .. then I had a lot of words…. First of all, obviously this was written by a man who had not been to China and if he had it was about 20 years ago.  Because the Chinese woman is not what they think.  They are not the ..Japanese Geisha girl.. you see on tv.  They are not unopinionated, and so submissive.

As proven in this article below from China’s People Daily:

Survey: Chinese women changes attitude toward marriage
( 2003-09-21 08:12) (People’s Daily)

Many high-income professional women remain single

A survey in Beijing indicates that 50.2 percent of those women with a monthly salary of 5,000–15,000 yuan remain single.

The survey shows that there are five reasons for this:

firstly, 48.3 percent of them are economically independent and unnecessary to depend on men;

secondly, 6.5 percent are busy with their work;

thirdly, 12.2 percent are too outstanding to find superior male partners;

fourthly, 23.4 percent distrust the existence of true feelings;

fifthly, 9.6 percent for other reasons.

Two lovers hold a western-style marriage ceremony in Beijing September 6, 2003. [newsphoto.com.cn]

Seeing sexual life as important, unafraid of divorce

According to a survey conducted among the women in Chengdu city, Sichuan Province, over 80 percent women surveyed attach importance to the quality of sexual life, the ratio exceeds 95 percent among those with a college education level and above. Relatively speaking, the middle-aged and old people, deeply influenced by traditions, hold the traditional concept of sex.

Change in attitude toward cohabitation

In the 1980s, cohabitation between unmarried man and woman was a shameful act in people’s eyes. Nowadays, however, over 80 percent of the women surveyed adopt an indifferent attitude, thinking that it is not necessarily to have a “marriage certificate” as long as a couple  loves each other.

First-generation daughter raises harsh conditions for choosing spouse

Such conditions include high schooling record, good-looking and a promising future. If one’s educational level is very average, he must be rich; if one is not rich and well-educated, he must be handsome, have specialized techniques and be willing to do household chores. When going to the matrimonial agency, these girls are usually accompanied by their parents, and the matrimonial requirements are listed by parents. These young girls have never cared about their own business, and so their parents will not let them decide their own marriage.

Views on child-bearing age

According to the women surveyed, 35.22 percent “thought it bad for women not having given birth to a child before the age of 30 because of their declining physical conditions”; 4.54 percent “thought it bad, because it will be laborious to rear a child later”; 19.31 percent thought what is discussed above is “not a problem at all” and 40.90 percent thought that it is “understandable even if one does not give birth to a child”.

Three-members family no longer the main form

The survey indicates that the choice of family form presents the pattern of one decline and three rises, that is, compared with the survey conducted in 1997, the ratio of people choosing a nucleus family (a couple plus a child) drops 11.3 percent, those choosing DINK family, celibacy and directly related families rise 1.1 percent, 3.9 percent and 6.1 percent respectively.

So as everyone can see… the views and thinking of Chinese women are … ohhh…Like American women. Actually, kind of worse… we will at least accept a man who isn’t rich or handsome as long as he treats us well.   However, no one like a stupid man… we can all agree to that.

I asked my husband about marrying a Chinese woman to an American woman and he says that a lot of Chinese women are spoiled by their parents and have too many husband requirements.  Some won’t even look at a man if he doesn’t have a car, house or money.

This is true… when I asked the girls in the office what their requirements were they all said…. House, car, not ugly but not handsome, Tall, educated, rich.. if not rich.. then be able to make a lot of money in the future.... and these are women that are educated teachers.  Not one person said… Love …. but when you ask American women… most will say .. they want someone who loves and respects them and will be stable and honest.  All the other stuff… would be nice .. but not really necessary.

I am afraid that the American man will be sadly disappointed when they find out that Chinese women are more demanding and independent than they think. In most cases, more than American women.

It makes me laugh out loud to think about it.  They are obviously living in the middle ages.  Their way of thinking is totally off the mark.

I have found being married to as Chinese man … is much better than an American man.  (at least the ones I have found)

I notice that they do everything they can to take care of you.  They feel it is their responsibility to be the man.  This is a great feeling for a woman.. to know that she can depend on the man to take care of her and not have to take on the job herself.  To know that the man wants to treat her like a queen.  You know… when you know your husband is wanting to honestly take care of you… then you have the motivation to take care of him.

That is what some of these American men that are wanting Chinese wives are not getting… you are not going to get a woman to take care of you and listen to you .. if you do not treat her the right way.

In a marriage you need to take care of each other…. you do what you are supposed to do… and then she will compliment you..and do what she is supposed to do. Kind of like… dare I say it… a partnership.

Love and respect .. begets love and respect…. Why do American women feel they deserve certain things… well because we do.. and the men that see that… will be  and are very happy… because…If you haven’t learned… a happy wife means a happy life.

until next time….