A Rude Englishman…?

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I have met many foreigners in my time here in China and most of us have the unspoken common law that we are all foreigners and we should stick together in this wild, crazy country.  However, sometimes there are people who did not get the memo.

I have usually found that the people from England have a little snobbishness about them but are mostly kind in their own way.  I even have a really close friend that I have helped out a lot that is a very gentlemanly, Englishman…. but today…was the first and I am sure not the last time I will want to throw a foreigner into the river that runs thru the middle of my town.

As I was walking out of my apartment building, I noticed a little, round bald man in his mid to late 40s walking across the sidewalk in front of me.  When you are in China the people from other countries stand out , so I shouted hello…. hello?  .. Helloooo!… Then I shouted… HEY.. then he stopped and said to me… “You are rude.. we don’t shout.. hey.. where I come from in England.”  I said… well I am from America and when we say hello 3 times to someone and they continue to ignore you .. we shout whatever the hell we want.   (  was a little aggravated with the dude)

I then proceeded to ask him if he was a new teacher at the school we should not name… He said very firmly…” I am the New Director of Studies” …in a belittling way… I said.. “ohhhh.. I am the Director of Foreigner teachers at TEFL.  Nice to meet you “… he stuck out his little fat, greasy hand to shake mine.. I knew then I was not going to like this guy… he was too sweaty and rude… Then he said to me.. you should know better than to shout “Hey” at an Englishman… I said you should know better than to ignore someone when they say hello to you, expecially when you know they speak English.    He said I have been in China for 6 years and I do not answer to hey…. I said.. So…I have been in Yuyao for 2 years .. and you stopped and answered when I said it… so you do answer to hey…Then I smiled at him.. sweetly.

He then huffed at me… yeah.. literally huffed at me.. and turned and started to walk away… I shouted at him… .”Heyyyyyy… Welcome to Yuyao…” (I crack myself up, sometimes) …. he just threw his hand up and waved me away like I was a fly buzzing around his head… He don’t know me.. !… with that kind of attitude you can find yourself.. sitting in a corner sucking your thumb..if you keep messing with me.

What an asshole.. but the last laugh is on him….. BECAUSE…. from my experiences with foreigners  living in this town… after about 2 to 3 months… the foreigners here become stir crazy…. and start looking for others to bond with…. or to introduce them to places to see and go for entertainment.   He will be looking for me.. in a few months.   However, he will be greatly disappointed to know .. that I am a kind and helpful person. .but first impressions mean a lot to me.

I am the kind of person.. that I can judge a person in about 10 minutes on whether or not I want to know them or be around them.   I am also pretty good at not being around them if I don’t like them.

I remember my grandmother saying to me “I am too old to waste time trying to convince people of  how good of a person I am”  at the time I couldn’t understand what she was trying to say.  I was young and all my energy was placed on making friends and getting people to like me and notice me.   I have grown up now… (for the most part) and I have realized that she was correct.

It is exhausting to try to convince and persuade people to see how good you are or how much you want to help them.   I am so tired of this…. I think I have finally come to the point in my life that I don’t care.   I know who I am .. and what I can do.. and if others are not perceptive enough to figure it out… their loss.

Oh.. Mr. Englishman…. whatever your name is.. (he didn’t give it to me.. I find that rude) … you are in for a big surprise…. but I realize.. he is going to be working for the “We don’t like Blacks” school… I’m thinking he is going to fit right in with them..just like a glove.

until next time….


14 thoughts on “A Rude Englishman…?

  1. What a rude foreigner! Sadly, not every foreigner in China is as gracious or educated as we’d like them to be. Good that you didn’t put up with him. I’m sure, as you said, he’ll be a perfect fit for that prejudiced, despicable school in town.

  2. Jules

    He was beyond rude..not a teacher, but “Director of studies”. It always boggles my mind how ppl are impolite for no real reason. He has a constipated attitude, let Mr. Six years in China figure his own way around.

    1. That is what I was thinking… Jules… he knows so much… let him find his own way around…when he finds out that I am the foreigner that has been her the longest. and has the most connections he will be soooo.. sorry….

  3. I used to be the girl that floated around from one group of people to the next trying to be everyone’s friend. I wanted and needed the connect I thought I would get from knowing a lot of people. When I finally started pleasing myself rather than catering to others was a blessing.

    I treat other how I want to be treated in the beginning and based on how they treat me I will continue or discontinue contact or the niceties.

    I try not to think about it be sometimes I love when people learn that rudeness will come back to bite you in the hinny.

    1. You are so right… it is much better to please yourself and let other accept you as you are.. than to .. run around trying to make others happy. I am so glad that Karma is a Bitch…. I like to say… “Karma is a Black American Bitch” hehehehe

  4. pearls

    You know I’m laughing don’t you! I’m laughing at your eloquent tenacity towards his tactless persona! Whoever he is, he’s definitely full of something other than himself! hehehe Hey, why not be like the Tibetan monks and purify the ground where that ‘token’ vibe walked! Seriously!

    I definitely like your grandmother’s way of thinking!

    1. I know you are.. hehehe… I actually.. found him rather comical… in a sweaty little man way…. looking like a little puffer fish when he gave me his title…. I have a english girl working in my school and I told her.. and she said.. he has something up his arse…. and not to use him to judge English people… i had to laugh.. when she said that.

      1. pearls

        I bet if you cross paths with him in a pub over there, after he’s had a few stiff, belts of alcoholic drinks, he’ll probably be saying ‘hey’ to anyone and anybody! Especially, after he’s indulged in either a game of darts (popular pub game) or discussing his favorite soccer team that loss during the World Cup…hehehe! That would really be a sight to see!

        1. Ohhh… that is going to be a blast.. because.. there are only a few pubs here.. so he has to show up at one or the other…. and I know the owners of all of them… just wait until i see them asking him .. what the hell happened to your soccer team during the world cup? I mean.. Americans dont even know how to play and we made it to the second round.. but at least we know not to make a goal in our own net….LMAO……

  5. It is funny how he did not see himself as being rude when he ignored you. I guess he figured he had to right to be a a**hole because he is superior (in his own delusional head). Well I commend you for reaching out even after his nasty attitude.

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