Chinese Singles Parties.. Who Knew?

Well this is a new one for me… In the quest to find the perfect mate the locals have singles parties that are hosted by government officials.  No, really!  One of my co-workers informed me that he was going to a singles party held at the Hospital…(yeah.. I was confused also) … hosted by the government officials of his village and the city.   I had to go… you know .. I am not single nor am I Chinese but I was so curious to find out what went on at a singles party.

So, I convinced my co-worker that I would be a good asset to him.  He can use me as a babe magnet.. because everyone will want to talk to him and ask about the foreigner.  He agreed that I could come with him… and he would pick me up to take me to the shing-ding… I asked him if I should wear scrubs…since it was at a hospital.. he just rolled his eyes at me and told me not to embarrass him.   (like I… would do a thing like that..)

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So my big afternoon party started with us walking into a room that was filled with local Chinese folks.  I was the only foreigner in the bunch .. so that started the room grumbling…(I always make a scene) .. As my friend went to the sign in table.. to get his number…I was approached by the Hostess with the mostess…. she quickly and excitedly started asking me if I was going to participate.  I said.. no .. thank you … but she pushed a little more… and I turned to my friend so he could tell her that I was only there for moral support.

After started about 30 minutes late..(I swear Chinese people are on Black people time) … the festivities began.   It seemed there were three groups of people who were mixed male and female… with names.. one was group Forever, one was group Happiness, and I can’t remember what the other group was.. but we were apart of it.

They started the show .. and yes it was a show with a stage and everything… with a game… they choose some people randomly and had them introduce themselves… and there was one young man in particular that was obviously the crowd pleaser with his good looks, tall height and fashionable clothes.. I think his personality was pretty good too... (I was a bit confused on why he couldn’t find a girl on his own…)..he had all the girls in a tizzy (even me a little)

Then they brought out a male/female couple that worked at the local gym.. they did a very strange rendition of  Shakira’s Waka Waka.. song… in dance.  Then they had people from the three teams copy this dance all at once.   I pushed my friend out there to do it… (hey… he came there to participate I was going to make him). I laughed at the fact that several of the guys were bumping into each other and a few guys were just feeling the music a little too much.

After that began a series of games that included: stacking coke cans and carrying them together with a random girl; a game of charades; pass the balloon neck to neck; and some crazy version of telephone but with actions.

All was quite funny and entertaining , however, I was confused on how these people were going to match up as couples.   I was then informed that on the little card they were suppose to put a number down of the person they were interested in.  (now it was getting good)… I had several choices for my friend but he was telling me that I was too picky..(seemed to me he was too picky) … anyway he decided that the girl who was closest to us that kept looking our way was the one he would pick.

Then the time came for them to pull out the cards and see who was competing for what girl or boy.   It seems my friend was up against one other man for his lady-love.   She had to pick which one she was most interested in by what questions they were asked.   She picked my friend…(of course)… this went on until they had four couples.  By the way.. the handsome guy had five girls competing for his affection.  I knew he would pick the prettiest one.

Then the weird stuff started to happen.  They took four sheets of tissue paper and put it on the floor in front of the couples… then they had to stand on the paper… the hostess and host asked questions… if they got the questions right the other people had to fold their paper in to smaller folds until the paper was so small that the girl has to be on the boy’s back.

It came down to my friend and his lady-love and another couple…(who cares who they were)... lucky for my friend the girl he was with was smart and answered all the questions correctly.

The ended up winning the entire game and becoming the King and Queen of the party.  I like to think it is because of me.. but hey… who knows.

The whole process took about 3 hours.  I don’t want to forget the singing in the middle.. can’t have a chinese anything without bad singing included.

My friend won an expensive watch.. and I got a free gift for going…(insulated cup for hot tea.. with chinese writing on it)

All in all it was quite interesting to see how they do the singles thing here.  Do I think anything serious came out of the party? Nayy.. not that I could see.  Was it entertaining?  yeah.. but I couldn’t meet anyone that way.  Did my friend find the love of his life…?  Nope.. he told me later that she was not the right one.  I did get to see a few government people I know… that I had met before in my TV appearance.  They came up and spoke to me.  I am so well-known…

After I got home, I called my husband (who was still working) and told him about the experience.  He just laughed and asked me if I found a second husband?  I said .. nayyy… they just didn’t have what I was looking for….

So I guess it is back to the drawing board for my friend… and maybe next time I will participate just to see if anyone picks me….hehehe…

until next time…


11 thoughts on “Chinese Singles Parties.. Who Knew?

  1. fifi osman

    Yes i remember reading that things are changing, which is great. I remember my chinese friend telling me if you have more then one child, theres a fine that you have to pay but im not sure if the fines still stands today. Theres was one chinese girl that was on the dating show who made this comment *i rather cry in lamborghini then date a poor man* they said she want too far lmao. But the guy she was saying it was hot, damn that girl stupid. He had a place to live, a car and a good job. That dont seem to be enough, why dont they help their men to get to the top? You help your hubby, you gave him more confidence to go get what he wants.

    1. Fifi- my husband told me .. if he wouldnt have met me … he would not have ever gotten married. Because of the way Chinese girls think. I have even asked Chinese girls.. dont you think the standards are too high… they said yes.. but they arent lowering them…. Wow… harsh.

  2. fifi osman

    The problem is theres too many men and not enough women in China. The one child policy is messying up the country, that policy has produced more boys then girls and also girls are very spoiled. They very picky, they all want their men to have a good job,lots of money,a house,car and many of them run of to the citys I`m happy the chinese government have taken notice and doing something. Ive heard they have a dating show in china thats very popular, have you seen it?

    1. Fifi… there are a lot of dating shows… there is even one that had foreign men picking chinese girls…. even had some African men on there… all of them spoke chinese very well. The one child is a little different now… if you have a girl first you can have another child, if you each come from a one child family you can have two, and if you live in the rural areas.. you can have however man you want. So things are changing… but your right the girls are very picky.. have very high financial standards.

      1. there are a lot of dating shows… there is even one that had foreign men picking chinese girls…. even had some African men on there… all of them spoke chinese very well.

        wow, do you have a link to that show?

        Did you take a picture of the handsome guy?

        1. Chic Noir – The show is on CCTV and they dont have it online… it is one of those local kind of shows. and I tried to take a photo..but the camera guy kept getting into the way… and my camera isnt that great…hehehe…but he is the tallest one out there.

  3. OMFG!!! I couldn’t stop laughing!!! 😀 “Flying”!!! ROFL!!

    On a serious note, I know it’s the culture, but I wish that they wouldn’t get these Anglo names. I like Chinese names.

    My last Chinese roommate was named after a liquer. He’s 24, and when I pointed it out to him, he just looked confused. Didn’t even know about the liquor until we got him a bottle for his birthday.

    I know that in Canada a few with the name “Dick” have changed it on arrival. 😉

  4. Jules

    Girl, you are doing it all….hehehe. I cannot believe you really tagged along. The entire experience sounded as though it really was a fun time all around. Are those authentic Rado watches or the Chinese version of? Because if they are authentic that was really an amazing prize that should more than soothe your friend’s heart and mind from not meeting the “one”. Keep enjoying your life Jo.

    1. Jules… anything I can do to really experience what the chinese locals do..I find a way to do it… hehehe… actually my friend said if they were the real ones.. that his watch should be around 10,000 rmb … not sure.. but he was pretty excited about them… I am going to see what other trouble i can sneak my way into …. I try to say it is for the press…hehehe.. my press…

  5. Maria wrote: “I know I know I always says I love your blog, but this time you really did outdo yourself. This is brilliant!!=) I have been out to speed dating events however this approach seems fun. When people meet they are nervous and having fun instead of “gazing” into each others eyes with nothing to say is inventive. I mean in fun situations people do tend to let their guard down and enjoy themselves…thats the first step to getting to know somebody=) Speeddating is popular however it also does not necessarily guarantee meeting the right person. Sometimes people potray themselves as what they would like to be and not who they really are. Thats all part of the dating game;-)”

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