I would like your opinion on something. Two weeks ago i met up with a chinese guy that I have been chatting with and skyping with. Funny thing is…he knew that I was very tall but he didn’t seem to care. When we finally met up he was all over me. He got a hotel here in NY so we can spend the weekend together. we both had a wonderful time. When he return to Boston he stopped contacting me.I remember our last text to each other after he returned to Boston was about sex. He had issues in the bedroom. If u know what I mean lol. could that have been it? Are chinese men that sensitive? I don’t know. What do you think?   –what did I do? 

Are Chinese men really that sensitive?  Yes, Yes… they are.   Everyday I am here in China I see the Chinese men around me clearer and clearer.   Called it face or call it pride or call it whatever you want.. they must have it… need it … thrive on it… can’t bear to live without it.

The fact that you had been talking to this guy and you told him you were tall and it didn’t faze him; only tells me that he didn’t really realize how tall you were going to be…I know that how a couple looks on the outside is very important.  A traditional Asian will not want a woman larger, or taller than him it will make him look less of a man, in society’s eyes.

On top of the added pressure to perform at his best in the bedroom to impress you and not being able to do that either… I think any man would be sensitive about something like that, but even more so for an Asian man.  They are already facing the stereotypes that they are not well-endowed  and are not perceived as the strongest partner sexually, so something like this could very well hurt his feelings and confidence to be able to contact you further.

However, you also have to take into account that he might have only wanted to play with you.  You know... hit it and quit it…. it happens a lot. Wanting to know what it would be like to have sex with a non-Asian woman.  It might be the fact that he wasn’t wanting anything serious.  That you were just a weekend fling.  Unfortunately, this is common practice when you are talking to people online.

Either way, I would not worry about it.  If he wants to see you again… he will make the effort.  If not, turn the page and move on. I would also suggest you be a little more careful about the people you meet online.  What do you guys think?