China: Open-minded means Open-legged

I know most of you picture China as this country that is reserved and innocent in some ways.  People in a third world country that aren’t exposed to a lot of our western corrupted ways.

Well, on the surface that is true.  For all intents and purposes China does seem that way….until you really get to know China.  I have written about Ktv boys and girls and even about the “pink houses” which offer services for a fee and even massage parlors that will give you a happy ending. However, I have yet to tell you about the secret social media life in China.

There is an app available called Weixin or Wechat on all smart phones.  It is a free social media app that has many cool features.  These features include chatting, chat, voice video calls, shaking the phone to find a friend, search for people around you, etc.  I find it a wonderful way to stay in touch with my family and friends in the states in real-time.

One of the many advantages of weixin is the chance to meet new people and make new friends…but i was a bit surprised at what other kind of requests you get from the locals on this App.


It seems that this handy-dandy program is being used to solicit free sex.  Yep..shocked me too…..and if you are a foreign person, particularly a woman they are very direct about what they want from you.

As you can see I am pretty direct about what I want to say also.  One guy even told me I wasnt really a foreigner because I wasnt open-minded.  I was confused, I asked him what is that suppose to mean?

He said he has seen the movies he knows all about western girls; they have sex with strangers all the time.  They like to do that.  I was floored.   What?  You think western women are whores? He said no,no, you don’t have to pay them. I was livid.  I told him open-minded doesn’t mean open-legged you jackass. 

We do not make a habit of having sex with strangers, especially ones we meet on Iphone apps.  He was actually, really shocked by what I said.  He actually apologized and said most men in China think this about western women.

I found he was only one of thousands of men that ask women for sex on wechat.  Lucky you can delete them or not add them to your account to avoid the foolery.

i have learned to mess with the men that question me by saying things like: ” you aren’t big enough”, you’re not a man”, why would i waste my time” and when they try to send photos of their junk…just start laughing hilariously.

This usually scares them away from me in shame and embarrassment and sometimes I take a photo of what they say and post it on wechat for all to see, since they are trying to be so secretive.

So, yes ladies…and gentleman…we tend  have a very sexual promiscuous reputation in China.  Thank you Hollywood! As if we don’t have enough to deal with over here.  Oh, and for those of you men and women who are in to that kind of thing… your heart out…but remember you are representing all of us every time you open your legs….ummmm… I mean…. your mind.

until next time….


10 thoughts on “China: Open-minded means Open-legged

  1. Jo, this had me seriously laughing out loud — but also because I understand it is all too true. Sometimes I’m just tired of Hollywood exporting the “Western woman as slut” image around the world. BTW, in regards to what Raquel mentioned about Sex and the City, I came across a paper that analyzed the sexual habits of the women on that show and contrasted them with typical sexual habits of women in the US — which showed pretty conclusively that SATC’s portrayal was completely out of sync with the reality for most women in the US.

  2. You’re direct. When I lived in Argentina for a year I was watching their soaps to practice Spanish. On one show, they portrayed an American businessman visiting an Argentine businessman. They got into a dispute and the American came across the desk to attack the Argentine. I was floored. “Is this what Argentines think Americans to in offices?!” Your experience suggests that lots of foreigners mistake our movies for our lives.

  3. Lori

    You can’t blame the movies for all of this. Granted that is the general formula for tv shows now and no one thinks about how it will look to those in another country. I mean people over here in the US solicit for sex on craigslist! Plus I know of too many women who travel overseas and sleep around with the first person they meet. So I am not surprised because I bet there are a lot of western women proving that they are “open minded”.

  4. Raquel

    Well, ‘The Sex and the City’ tv show did absolutely nothing for our reputation amongst the rest of the world. I mean the chicks on that show literally slept with everyone the went out with and acted like it was the norm, like everyone did it. It’s no wonder other countries find us amoral.

  5. I get that on QQ too. I just ignore them. I just see those men on weixin as a joke. Sometimes it is hard because I am earnestly looking for love. Sometimes I feel that I am one click away from one true love so I will keep trying. Waiting for a my Asian prince. Plus I would like to publically announce Jo will be my my dating coach aka pimp!!!

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