Well… My husband and I are clearing up loose ends and finalizing stuff... but I have begun my quests to find some companionship.  I am not looking for another husband by far…. I am looking for someone I can hang around and go out and do somethings every now and then and of course… sex.

One thing about being a foreign woman in China… finding someone to have sex with is very easy… well I guess it is very easy in every country isn’t it?   In China it is quite funny how this dating thing works.   I am a pretty open person so I will speak to just about anyone about pretty much anything. When trying to date Chinese men in China there are a few things you need to look out for…. one big one is “Are they married?”


Many Chinese men are married by the age of 30 years old, therefore, most likely if you meet one close to or over thirty they are already married or going to get married.  That is the get married age.   I have also learned that Chinese men separate sex from love. To them sex is just a physical activity you do with who ever you want… Love is only for your family ie. wife, child, parents etc.  They have actually told me that its only sex.

Another question you need to ask…… is if they are only wanting to have SEX?

I have never had any problem meeting men… and in China it isn’t any different… the only problem I find is meeting quality men.  Most men I have met only want one night stands.  It seems they see a foreign face and assume that we are in heat or something and will just have sex with anything.    I honestly think that chinese men just want something to stick their penis in….. doesn’t matter what or who.

Those of you who want to verify what I say… I suggest you do this… download the Momo app, or the Wechat app on your smart phone…. put a normal photo of yourself as the mim,  and open the part that searches for people who are close to you.   You don’t need to contact anyone just look thru it for a bit then close it…..within 5 to 10 minutes you will have 5 to 10 chinese men contacting you asking for sex.  It is amazing…. I do it as an experiment to see how many people will ask me.

English and Non English-speaking people they all try.  One guy told me I wasnt an American because I didn’t do one night stands… Really?…..He told me he saw it in the movies that American were very open and liked sex with strangers…. I said .. what was the  name of this movie… I want to see?   It was a porn.   That right ladies…. we are being compared to porn movies…. nice.

They havent all been duds…. I have spoken to some very interesting men… from many countries…. I have set up some dinner dates and we will see how it goes…I will keep you updated.

Currently I am talking to an Iraqi man, English Man, and three Chinese men….one who studied in the UK.   it proves to be an interesting week.

Those wondering about my Valentines Day… I went out to the local bar… alone… they had a special every person they see kiss on the lips got a free shot.   I am all about free… so I just boldly when up and asked people to kiss me so I could get shots.   It is quite the ice breaker I tell you….. I ended up meeting the Chinese guy that studied in the UK…. who by the way didn’t drink.. so I drank his shot and mine.    He was very interesting and even made me a rose out of the red napkin on the table…. a man who can do Origami…. nice huh?  Not bad for my first V-Day alone.

This dating thing might not be too bad… after all.

until next time…….