Long Time No See…..

Wow… what a run I have had….. there are so many things to say… not sure I can fit them all in one blog… but i will try.  Lets start off with an apology… someone once said.. the longer you stay in china the less things you have to blog about….that is kind of true…. but I think it more routine things get and you feel it is not as important as it once was.


I went home this last march to visit my kids and family in the states… I call it my Midwest tour.  I saw my son and his kids in Illinois… then traveled by train to Missouri to visit my uncles, sister, brother and cousins… then traveled by bus to Nebraska to visit my daughter and her daughter… then headed back to Illinois by train and then back home to china.  It was a long exhausting trip… with a lot of traveling but I got to see most of the people I needed to see.  I did feel like a fish out of water at times… but it was awesome to be able to speak to some local Chinese people over there and see them shocked with my ability to speak Chinese.

I also had some relationship difficulties with my current muscle man, Jet…. but… we have worked through those hard times and are back on track for a successful future and life. Some times cultural things get in the way of trying to be happy.  We have learned that we have to respect each others ideals and remember the reason we love each other.  There may be wedding bells in the future….. we will see

I have decided to make some changes and move to Shanghai…. i know.. huge city….expensive city… but for my boyfriend to find decent employment…. that will not only help him but me also in the long run for stability and security…. we need to move.  He need to feel he is taking care of me…. and I need to feel he is putting in his part… so finding employment for me is quit easy…. so I need to support him.  Anyway… in Chinese tradition… whatever money he makes is mine anyway… so might as well have him making as much as he can….


There are still small things I need to tackle… like my current job… the bar… my online business….. and finding a job… Life is full of changes and adventures… so I just look at this as another adventure or chapter in my life.

I did get a offer to move back to Yuyao and open a school with my old boss… this seemed like the perfect thing for me… however, i realized that they were still the planning stages… and that it would be small children 3 to 7 yrs.  which is not my forte… since I hate all kids but my own.

we will see where life takes me….. there are always nooks and crannies that i fall into along the way.

All in All, things are going pretty well… in China…. in the States.. my daughter had baby daddy drama… even got arrested for assault… because her baby daddy accused her of slapping him and he called the police…. my son is dealing with a bit of depression… and trying to over come that… and my son’s father died yesterday…. at 40… so makes me look at my mortality…. and my future…… and so far… my future looks bright…..

until next time….


8 thoughts on “Long Time No See…..

  1. Kendra

    Glad to see this update. I hope you are well. Certainly anything can happen, so we just try our best to remain prepared. I’m hoping things with your kids will get better. I definitely feel for you son with his depression, it can really mess things up. And I hope your daughter is okay. I want to hear more about the places you’ve considered for retirement. I’ve heard about Columbia a little but I wanted to know if you are considering a specific region. Philippines and Malaysia seems like a no brainer. I guess for me if I were to retire outside of the states I would consider a Spanish-speaking nation since Spanish is my second language.

  2. lisalisa23452

    Hi, I came across your blog in my search for things about China.  I have a question, what did you pack to move to China?  I will be moving there next year and I will be bringing my daughter with me, she’s 6, could you give me some advice about what to pack, what not to pack, etc… I’m not sure how long I will be staying in China but I know I will not be returning to the states for a little while if at all.  I would appreciate any and all advice.  Also, I heard that China doesn’t have laundry mats, do all of the apartments come with washer and dryers, how is this problem handled? Thank you, Alisia 

    1. China doesnt have dryers. there are very small washers in some of the modern apartments but you need to hang up all your clothes. There are shops you can take your big items and they will wash and dry them for you…

  3. Shanghai is a great city and you will never be bored. Plus the salaries are much higher too. I am glad that you and Jet decided to weather the storm. You two are really cute together. Are you throwing a big farewell party at Shares?

  4. Wow, that is a lot going on! I’m glad you and Jet are still going strong (and working through the challenges together). A move to Shanghai is big! I’m confident the two of you will find success in the great city on the sea — keep us posted on your adventures!

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