Hello Boys and Girls, I wanted to do a blog on my new relationship but I wanted to focus on some of the issues we are going to encounter that I feel I didn’t have to deal with when dating Asian men.
Let me explain. As a Black American dating an Asian man I had the normal cultural differences to deal with like the food, the family and the strange habits. But I didn’t have to deal so much with racism. I mean there are a few incidences where it was an issue but nothing to serious. It was more focused on the point of being a foreign person not really a skin color issue. I think that was because we were both considered minority races. In the eyes of many Caucasian people we were pretty much the same.
However, now that I’m with a European, a White European at that, the cultural issues are only a small part but the racial issues have become more apparent. The obvious difference in the color of our skin has brought out the devil in many people. We seen it a million times, when a white man starts dating a Black woman first there is shock then there is hate.
I’m not sure why so many people are concerned with our relationship but it seems to bother a lot of people. Mind you our relationship is wonderful. He is a caring and loving man and I love being with him. (Just in case he is reading this, haha) but I have gotten some kickback. Especially from my own people lately.
I have received DMs telling me I need a Black man with emphasis on sexual prowess or I need to find a Black King or even I’m messing up the race. (That was from an African)
It made me realize that it could cause issues when we start traveling around the world, especially in America. I mean if my people are already acting out on it, just wait and see what the White people will do. I realized that there are some places in the world that won’t be accepting of our relationship.
When I mentioned this to the German he was in disbelief. He seriously couldn’t imagine that it could be an issue because it’s not an issue in his mind. I mean it is 2021, you would think we would be past this already.
Unfortunately, when you are in an interracial-intercultural relationship these conversations still need to be had. Sadly in this day and age people still have issues with couples with different skin colors. I also didn’t take into consideration the fact that he is German and many people are still dealing with the issues in German history that aren’t so pretty. He deals with discrimination due to his nationality.
I know, I know … the first thing you want to say is F them and live your life. But encountering racism or discrimination puts a damper on your Romantic vacation or romantic dinner that sticks with you for a long time.
So I decided to prepare my German by showing him some movies on what issues interracial couples go through even today. I think it’s important for him to know that not everyone approves of our love. We have also discussed how we will deal with these encounters if the come up. I promised not to cut anyone or punch anyone in the throat.
If you have any movie suggestions please put them in the comments. I’m not trying to scare my man off but I just want him to be aware. As my grandma Dorothy always said “prepare for the worst and hope for the best”.
Until next time ….