Life Behind The Wall

Thoughts and Experiences of a Black American Woman in China


Teaching In China

Im Not Dead…. just busy

Hello People….. I know its been like forever…. so much is going on in my life.. I barely have time to stop and breathe…. let alone update my blog… but I know some of you are worried.. I saw it on my twitter feed…. those of you that connect with me on my Facebook page.. are aware that I remarried this year….. Yep… I jumped the broom again… this time… it is right…. It feels different from any other marriage that I have had.. I think I got it right this time.   Yes, he is Chinese and yes… he is the muscle-bound cutie I have been dating for the past year and a half.



What have I been doing all this time.. you are thinking…. well making changes….. changes… and more changes. My hair and clothing wechat business is really taking off….. I have increased my customer base three-folds in the past year.  I have gotten better factory suppliers, better quality of products and more efficient.  Kaizen (continuous improvement) is the key to ongoing success.


I have decided to switch teaching jobs.. to another small city that is more business oriented place so my new hubby and I can expand our business endeavors and maybe create some new side businesses, the opportunities are endless.  IMG_6803

I have made new friends and lost unnecessary friends…. I have basically started the next chapter of my life.  The finally chapter.. I like to say…. I have grown older, wiser and yet stayed fabulous….. (working in fashion and hair does that to you.) …. I am not only continuously improving my business… I am continuously improving myself.


With this new chapter in my life… I need to start blogging again to share with everyone… how to reinvent yourself.. how to start again… and how to keep growing and learning … even at my ripe old age of 47.   (by the way.. new hubby is 30… yep.. I’m still cougar-ing….)

So many things have happened in the past year…. It’s really too much to try to share with you guys at this time…. let’s just say .. there was good, bad.. and ugly… I am still invested in the Bar.. and the App company… they are still in my portfolio of ongoing businesses… I am just adding to my empire.

My kids and grand kids are doing wonderfully…. and my family seems to be getting along alright.  So, I am spending a lot of time doing me.. and my future plan.  (you know to retire in a big house on the beach… with some local island people)

I will be looking for people in the future that are interested in doing business in China… so hit me up… I will be looking for teachers, sellers, wholesalers…. etc.

That’s all for not…

until next time……



Winters in China

This is my 8th winter in China…..and every winter I tell myself that I will be ready… I order many pairs of socks, and leggings with fur inside.  I get more sweaters and clean all my winter blankets to get them ready.  Every year I tell myself…. I will not be cold and I will handle this like a champ.

This pre-winter was no exception.  I got everything ready to prepare for the China Winter season.   As with every winter thus far … I am again freezing my ass off.04snow-span-600

I don’t know what it is…. I just can never get warm in this freaking place.   I have floor heaters, scarves, gloves and hats… I layer my clothes and even break down and drink hot water… but I can never get warm enough.  It doesn’t help that everywhere I go.. every Chinese person opens a window… to let in “fresh air” …. which is ironic since Chinese has some of the highest pollution levels in the world.   I even have to remind everyday to shut the freaking windows….

At school is worse…. I am lucky enough to have heat in the classrooms and office.. however that heat has to be shared with students and co-workers… and it seems that they don’t feel the cold like I do.  However, when I walk through the hallways of our extremely large (someone is over compensating) school building .. its like I am walking through a winter wonderland.  Its freezing… all the doors and windows are open and its a damp cold… so the floors are all slippery with moisture…. so not only am I cold… i need to balance so I don’t fall all over the place.Humble-Administrator-s-Garden-in-winter

Its just too damn cold …. now if you look at the temperature.. its only about 25 degrees…. so they say that isn’t very cold why are you complaining…. but i have to remind people that the walls are cement, the floors are cement and there is no insulation whatsoever in anything, so we work and live in CAVES… like animals.    What is wrong with these people?

Of course I choose the seat by the sliding glass door off the balcony in our office .. because I wanted the view and the sunshine in the spring and summer months… however, come winter and fall…. the little Chinese people will come and open .. said door and tell me … they need fresh air…. I say… I don’t need the flu… shut the damn door.  They just giggle and walk away…. but the door is still open….!!!!

So you see me .. in the office at school… wearing … hat, scarf, gloves (typing with gloves is not easy) and a big coat on.  I look like I am about to travel to Alaska…. but actually I am only going to class to educate the future leaders of china. images

So my advice people…. if you are every coming to china… in the months of November to March….. which is the peak winter months….. my best suggestion would be…. wait until spring…..


until next time…..

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