Life Behind The Wall

Thoughts and Experiences of a Black American Woman in China


Teaching In China

Drama Drama and More Drama

I never thought I would be one of those people that would say “these kids today” at the beginning of any sentence but these young people today just have no respect for their elders. 

As you know, I started a wechat group 8 years ago to help black women and other women from abroad adjust to china and give them support and advice when needed. It has been very successful and many ladies have came and went and enhanced their china experience. 

The last two years there were some black women added that seemed to bully people whenever there was a difference of opinion. It got to the point that whenever I tried to give advice they started double teaming me and attacking me. Other women were leaving the group because of the negativity. They were Telling me that just because I was old doesn’t mean I know anything and even stating that how I raised my kids doesn’t matter because that was the old days. Seriously?

When did people stop respecting people that have experience and knowledge? When did 48 become an old woman? 

Now, I’m and I quote ” a bitter, 50 year old dried up hag, that doesn’t have a clue what she is talking about” (shakin’ my head). This from a girl whose job is to do hair. 

So, I have left my own group. I made that decision because if I would have deleted them out of the group I would have been told it wasn’t fair. So I choose to leave. Can’t deal with high school drama. 

They good thing is my husband made my Valentines Day so special that it helped me forget this drama for awhile. 

Always remember, not everyone is gonna like you ….you aren’t money!!

Until next time…

So busy making changes …

Boys and girls, I know I have been slacking on the blogging but I have been very busy making life changes.  It seems every couple of years I decide to upset things by making drastic changes to my life. Call me crazy or adventurous or just plain stupid; but I always seem to add more chaos to my already chaotic life. 

Recently, I moved to Yiwu… and a few blogs back I made the decision to stay on with this company and stick it out for the contract. Well, the contract is over in June and thankfully because I am ready to go.  They have found ways to avoid paying me full salary every month and they have too many little Chinese girls running around here risking their lives trying to boss me around when they have no power. They don’t know me…They ain’t ready! They even had the nerve to deduct my salary when another foreign teacher from Africa didn’t come to work. Like I control when people choose to show up for work.  He said “I should manage better” whattttt????  I have to manage people from 7 different countries, backgrounds, and cultures; none of them American. He is lucky I can keep them all respectful and polite to one another while they do their jobs. 

I have decided that I’m done with teaching —10 yrs is enough. I’m tired of dealing with the “powers that be” who do not understand how to run a school or manage employees. I’m tired of working 9 hour days, 6 days a week, ….I’m basically just tired. 

So, I’m going to continue my online business, which is found well and I’m going to freelance corporate English training.  

I’m the boss now, Bitches!!!  #NowWhat??!!!

I think I’m ready. I have been in China long enough and I have all kinds of connections and opportunities. Hell, I’m pretty fabulous if you ask me!! My hubby is supportive 100% and I’m motivated to get this underway. Change is good….and at age 48 ….I’m gonna shake up some shit. 

Wish me luck people…it’s gonna be bumpy. 
Until next time…

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