Well… I have started dating again… and so far it is pretty easy to get dates….. in the past two weeks I have been on about four dates.. and one was a whole weekend.  I have tried to be open-minded about it and have added foreign men to the male testosterone pot.  So, I went on a weekend date with a man from New Zealand.   Very nice guy, interesting and entertaining and works as a director of short films.  Awesome right? He lives in Shanghai, which is an hour by fast train from me.  He came down to spend the weekend with me. (in his own hotel rom… by the way) ... we had a great time… bar with friends, Reggae bar after… and the next day brunch, outside market walking, and jazz bar that night… I really have only one problem with the guy…… He is not Chinese.

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It sounds crazy but I guess we like what we like…… and I like what I like.  I have tried going out with East Indian, Africans, British, New Zealand, Italian, and Middle Eastern men…. but the fact of the matter is …. I am really and fully attracted to Chinese Men.  The other guys are great and attractive, but for me… they just don’t get my heart beating fast or my panties wet.   I just need an Asian man for that feeling.   (Hello, My name is Jo and I am addicted to Asian men)

I was told that I might have been Chinese in Another life… and now I think that might be true… because no matter who I am with or what I am doing… I will always notice an attractive Asian man first.  I spend most of my time comparing what the man I am with is saying and doing .. to what a Chinese man says or does….. I guess have been dating Asian men for the last 25 years…. I have to face the truth….. I love Asian men.

I have decided that I have to come to the realization and stop trying to convince myself otherwise.   Black men can call me names and say I am betraying my race, White men can laugh and say… Why?, and Middle Eastern men can keep telling me that they are the better choice…however my heart and body belong to Asian men.

I have been using several different ways to meet men here in China… the easiest and fastest way is using some Smart phone apps.  I have downloaded Wechat and Momo apps… there are dozens of others but… I can only answer so many messages in one day.  These two keep me pretty busy..so its all I need.   I get about 15 to 20 messages a day from men…between the these two apps.  So, many that I have to start filter by photos, ability to speak english, and how they start the conversation….Usually, when the words…. do you want to have sex? are the first thing they say…. they get deleted.

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Both apps have features that let you search around the areas that are near you…. and people can find you in these areas and send you messages.   Now mind you, most of the messages are a request for sex or people sending penis pics…but every now and then you get some pretty decent men that actually want to take you out to eat before they ask you for sex.  Some even wait until the second date….. I know????!!!!!!!

I have found that Chinese people as a whole are pretty promiscuous, surprisingly.  They will have one night stands on the daily. They get pretty dirty during the night when they think no one is watching.   I sometimes feel that Chinese men just want to poke their penis in something… doesn’t really matter what.   They are quite the horny little devils.  But once you kick the horn dogs out-of-the-way… you can find some decent men.

Most are more talk than action anyway… so if you actually call them out on what they are saying they will back down pretty quick.  They all seem to have the fantasy to sleep with a foreign girl.  They always ask is they sex different from a Chinese girl… ( I tell them I have never had sex with a Chinese girl.. so I don’t know) .… I do remind them that we are people… and our kitty kats goes vertically ..not horizontally so they don’t have to worry so much about it.

I have been booked for dates.. for every other day and the weekends… I even have people waiting in the appointment book.  So that crap about Chinese men not being attracted to Black women is a whole like of bullshit.  They are men … they like boobs and arse just like any other man…. So far my quest continues … to find a companion to hang out with and go places with me.

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As for my future ex hubby…. he still hasn’t caught on to the fact that divorced means we are not together anymore… he still calls almost every day to check on me… and wants to stay close.   smh… I guess he is a bit confused still.   He will figure it out one day.  Until then … I will let him continue to do what he does and I will keep doing what I am doing.  He did promise he would call before he came to visit me… just in case I was busy.   (hell if I know how he thinks)

Anyway…. I am back on the Chinese guys… and I am not going to make that mistake again of thinking I can force myself to be attracted to other types of men….. I am who I am…. and I am surrounded by a buffet of men.   Life couldn’t get much better….. Or could it?

Until Next time…..

Well… My husband and I are clearing up loose ends and finalizing stuff... but I have begun my quests to find some companionship.  I am not looking for another husband by far…. I am looking for someone I can hang around and go out and do somethings every now and then and of course… sex.

One thing about being a foreign woman in China… finding someone to have sex with is very easy… well I guess it is very easy in every country isn’t it?   In China it is quite funny how this dating thing works.   I am a pretty open person so I will speak to just about anyone about pretty much anything. When trying to date Chinese men in China there are a few things you need to look out for…. one big one is “Are they married?”

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Many Chinese men are married by the age of 30 years old, therefore, most likely if you meet one close to or over thirty they are already married or going to get married.  That is the get married age.   I have also learned that Chinese men separate sex from love. To them sex is just a physical activity you do with who ever you want… Love is only for your family ie. wife, child, parents etc.  They have actually told me that its only sex.

Another question you need to ask…… is if they are only wanting to have SEX?

I have never had any problem meeting men… and in China it isn’t any different… the only problem I find is meeting quality men.  Most men I have met only want one night stands.  It seems they see a foreign face and assume that we are in heat or something and will just have sex with anything.    I honestly think that chinese men just want something to stick their penis in….. doesn’t matter what or who.

Those of you who want to verify what I say… I suggest you do this… download the Momo app, or the Wechat app on your smart phone…. put a normal photo of yourself as the mim,  and open the part that searches for people who are close to you.   You don’t need to contact anyone just look thru it for a bit then close it…..within 5 to 10 minutes you will have 5 to 10 chinese men contacting you asking for sex.  It is amazing…. I do it as an experiment to see how many people will ask me.

English and Non English-speaking people they all try.  One guy told me I wasnt an American because I didn’t do one night stands… Really?…..He told me he saw it in the movies that American were very open and liked sex with strangers…. I said .. what was the  name of this movie… I want to see?   It was a porn.   That right ladies…. we are being compared to porn movies…. nice.

They havent all been duds…. I have spoken to some very interesting men… from many countries…. I have set up some dinner dates and we will see how it goes…I will keep you updated.

Currently I am talking to an Iraqi man, English Man, and three Chinese men….one who studied in the UK.   it proves to be an interesting week.

Those wondering about my Valentines Day… I went out to the local bar… alone… they had a special every person they see kiss on the lips got a free shot.   I am all about free… so I just boldly when up and asked people to kiss me so I could get shots.   It is quite the ice breaker I tell you….. I ended up meeting the Chinese guy that studied in the UK…. who by the way didn’t drink.. so I drank his shot and mine.    He was very interesting and even made me a rose out of the red napkin on the table…. a man who can do Origami…. nice huh?  Not bad for my first V-Day alone.

This dating thing might not be too bad… after all.

until next time…….

 

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