Wow.. the end of the year .. and what a year its been…. I have had so much that has happened this year I wanted to do a kind of list of things that have happened the good, the bad and the ugly.

1) Started the year with the usual intent to do something interesting and exciting. So I became a shareholder/partner of the local bar in Bin Jiang District in Hangzhou city.  This was a good move and has proved to be a door for many things.

My Bar family

My Bar family

2) Beginning of the year I also got divorced.  This was one of those ugly things.. but it proved to be the best thing that ever happened to me.  I realized that I need to really consider my own feelings and happiness instead of focusing on making other people happy.   After the divorce I started dating and that was a whole lot of drama.

3) I got promoted at my school to Head of Student Management… but then after a month it was taken away and the position was eliminated.   That how things roll in china when you work for a Chinese company.  They will just move you up and down without a care to your career goals.

4) Started dating a guitarist and started learning guitar.  No matter how much of an asshole he turned out to be.. I still have to thank him for introducing me to the guitar… I am enjoying every minute of my learning experience.  Although I lost my free teacher, yYouTube has been a great help to me.

Brown Rice... Rock N Roll Baby

Brown Rice… Rock N Roll Baby

5) I started my own band Brown Rice… and sing rock cover songs at the bar.  I get a lot of  adrenalin from playing in a band and being the lead singer was like an impossible dream come true.  I may not be the new Joan Jett.. but I can cross that off my bucket list.

6) I became the Asst. General Manager of the bar.  Yes.. they saw the potential i had in management and the skill I have in advertising and marketing.. which I love, love, love…. that is the job I live for.   So I stepped down from being the lead singer of the band and became the band’s manager and bar manager…. while still teaching of course….(gonna keep the big money coming in)

7) I briefly dated a Chinese Biker… I am all about the wild and the crazy…. and dating a biker although short-lived was very exciting and wild..(that is basically why I had to cut it a little short… a little too wild) but made some wonderful new biker friends that will probably last a life time.IMG_5275

8) Big changes at my teaching job… the company decided to change locations to a town about an hour away from where I currently live.  I have to ride the bus…. to and from work.. an hour each way … everyday…. Makes me consider some career changes.

My first big tattoo... Black Orchids... (also my chinese name.. Hei Lan)

My first big tattoo… Black Orchids… (also my chinese name.. Hei Lan)

9) I got some new tattoos.. yep.. I am a tattooed bitch.. the cool thing about tattoos is that you can control what you want to put on your body.. and it doesn’t matter what anyone says… it’s very freeing.

10) Met the current man of my dreams….. Jet… a former gangster turn good… and a man who will do anything to keep me happy.  The sweetest kindest man.. I have ever met in my life honestly. If I was ever going to marry again… in the far, far, far future… this would be the man.

My man... Jet Liu

My man… Jet Liu

11) I decided to by an ebike.. yep.. after living in china for now 8 years.. I broke down and bought an electric bike.. that everyone rides here.. Jet taught me to ride it properly and now I am riding like a …. BOSS!

12) Found out that my recently divorced ex-husband remarried six months after our divorce.  Kind of quick?  Maybe that tells me that he had someone on the side.  He married a local Chinese girl… I don’t wish him bad luck.. but Karma.. my have other ideas.

13) I decided to do my own business here in China.. it is very complicated to know all the freakin’ rules here.. but with some very good “relationships” that I have formed over the years.. and my stud by my side….. I am going to get this done.  I have started putting together a clothing line.. for club wear.. ladies that are Divas… in charge of their lives.   People who are proud of their bodies no matter what size they are.  My new company is called “Dragon Designs”  I am going to be selling on and… and working on my own site.

My inspiration for my company name... Jet's amazing dragon tattoo..

My inspiration for my company name… Jet’s amazing dragon tattoo..

I am really trying to start preparing for my future retirement business.  Oh know I will never stop working and stop experiencing life.. I just can’t that would be crazy.  I am now deciding on which country to retire in.   I am thinking either Malaysia, Philippines, or Colombia, South America.  Whether I eventually marry Jet or not… that is my plan.   Why not come back to the states? Well, I have realized that my life has improve tremendously since I move away… and I feel less stressed and less overwhelmed.   I love my country and I will never give up being American… I love being American.. and I will visit my family as much as I can… but  for me… living abroad is a good thing.  And from what I can see on the news these days a little safer.  I hope to bring my kids to visit me when I retire… for now I will visit them in the states every year or so.

So that’s kind of my life in review over that past year… there has been some crazy moments.. and some great  times. I have met many great people and did some great performances, like when I dresses as an avenging angel on Halloween.

Halloween 2014.. at the Bar... great performance

Halloween 2014.. at the Bar… great performance

What will the New year bring?  Hopefully… more love, joy and happiness.  I also hope there will be great success in my new business venture.  I have learned to live life to the fullest and not to worry about what others say about you.. but… Honey…. You only have this life.. make it Amazing…..Boo

Until Next Time…..

Well today was our move to Yiwu and boy was it a Chinese Drama. 
It’s started yesterday. The landlord was trying to get out of paying us what he owed. See we had made a deal, we paid two months and if we found someone to sublease he would pay us back one month and our deposit.  He came in and checked everything and then said he was only giving us a half a month, Because he was inconvenienced.  Well, Jet wasn’t going for that bullshit, he said if the guy didn’t pay him he would knock on the door everyday of the new tenants until he paid.  So the guy agreed to pay. 

So, this morning the movers arrived at 5 am. (I wasn’t ready) we were still in the bed. The were at the gate. Jet threw on some shorts and tshirt and went to meet them. I grabbed some clothes and locked myself in the bathroom. I still had one more day of work at my old job. 

It seems while I was in the bathroom the guards would not let the Truck come into the complex because it would wake up the neighbors.  Jet again had to lose his mind. He told them….loudly… That they better let the truck in or he was going to beat the crap out of all of them. (He never learned that saying about not burning bridges) They finally let them in the complex. 

While I was in the bathroom they had started moving things out. They did not realize that a foreigner was in the apartment. I finally came out in full make up and dressed for work and all the movers froze where they were and stared at me. No sound …. Just open mouthed stares…..That was when Jet walked into the apartment. He noticed they were all staring at me and began to shout at them to stop staring at his wife and finish moving shit. That seemed to light a fire under them because then they started moving in overdrive. 

So renting agent came to sign off on the apartment so we could get paid. Afterward Jet called the landlord and said okay everything checks out send the payment through. (We pay through a phone app called Alipay…kind of like Apple Pay but better) the landlord decided to show his ass and say he isn’t paying anything. 

Jet said calmly….”it’s ok we will take this refrigerator and washing machine as payment received.” All of a sudden money appeared in our account and he was on his way to Yiwu. 

I was on my way to work. Teaching the little critters for the last time. It was quite said many teachers were not happy. I think they were really gonna miss me.  (Even though I am only gonna be a 30 min. Fast train ride away). 

Classes over I had an hour bus ride back to the city, a half hour taxi ride to the train station and I’m currently on the fast train to Yiwu. 
New chapter starting…bound to be interesting. 

Until next time….

Well, kids I have decided to move to a new school in a new city. Currently, I am the US Curriculum Manager at an international college. I have been here for 4 years and I decided for several reasons it was time to change jobs. 

Many people would think I was crazy. High salary, stable job, and fairly high position, why leave? 

I think my reasons for changing jobs and cities are two-fold. First, I accepted a position at a smaller school, in a smaller city for less base salary…. I know ….WTF?

Let me explain, you see I am a person that follows my gut. I did it when I moved to Florida back in the day, I did it when I quit my job in the states to do my own business, I did it when I decided to move to China and I did it when I decided to move to Hangzhou. Everytime, I made these Changes everyone said I was stupid and I would fail and Every time I proved them wrong and have become successful dispite their negativity and I feel this move is the same. 

I have accepted a position as Director of overseas and Manager of Teofl/ILETs Department. I will be training teachers, teaching Exam English, teaching business English and sending students abroad to study. I know that’s a mouthful. I will still continue my clothing and hair business, I will still consult with my app company and bar. 

One of the reasons I took the job is because of the potential. I have a 30% commission on top of my base salary. This motivates me to achieve more and to be more successful. The other reason and I think main reason is my husband.  

I am 47 years old and I have accomplished many things and have achieved many successes. However, my husband at 31 yrs old has not. He still has many things to achieve. We are moving to a city that is known for business and manufacturing. I want to be there to support my husband in accomplishing his dreams and goals. 

I am on the road to retirement age and I want to make sure he is secure in what he is doing in life so  I don’t need to worry about myself when I retire.  I guess you can say supporting him also helps myself. 

Change is scary, but not feeling secure in you retirement age is scarier. Wish me luck in Yiwu City, Zhejiang Province. But I feel confident in my choice because my gut never steers me wrong 

Until Next Time….

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