Wow.. the end of the year .. and what a year its been…. I have had so much that has happened this year I wanted to do a kind of list of things that have happened the good, the bad and the ugly.

1) Started the year with the usual intent to do something interesting and exciting. So I became a shareholder/partner of the local bar in Bin Jiang District in Hangzhou city.  This was a good move and has proved to be a door for many things.

My Bar family

My Bar family

2) Beginning of the year I also got divorced.  This was one of those ugly things.. but it proved to be the best thing that ever happened to me.  I realized that I need to really consider my own feelings and happiness instead of focusing on making other people happy.   After the divorce I started dating and that was a whole lot of drama.

3) I got promoted at my school to Head of Student Management… but then after a month it was taken away and the position was eliminated.   That how things roll in china when you work for a Chinese company.  They will just move you up and down without a care to your career goals.

4) Started dating a guitarist and started learning guitar.  No matter how much of an asshole he turned out to be.. I still have to thank him for introducing me to the guitar… I am enjoying every minute of my learning experience.  Although I lost my free teacher, yYouTube has been a great help to me.

Brown Rice... Rock N Roll Baby

Brown Rice… Rock N Roll Baby

5) I started my own band Brown Rice… and sing rock cover songs at the bar.  I get a lot of  adrenalin from playing in a band and being the lead singer was like an impossible dream come true.  I may not be the new Joan Jett.. but I can cross that off my bucket list.

6) I became the Asst. General Manager of the bar.  Yes.. they saw the potential i had in management and the skill I have in advertising and marketing.. which I love, love, love…. that is the job I live for.   So I stepped down from being the lead singer of the band and became the band’s manager and bar manager…. while still teaching of course….(gonna keep the big money coming in)

7) I briefly dated a Chinese Biker… I am all about the wild and the crazy…. and dating a biker although short-lived was very exciting and wild..(that is basically why I had to cut it a little short… a little too wild) but made some wonderful new biker friends that will probably last a life time.IMG_5275

8) Big changes at my teaching job… the company decided to change locations to a town about an hour away from where I currently live.  I have to ride the bus…. to and from work.. an hour each way … everyday…. Makes me consider some career changes.

My first big tattoo... Black Orchids... (also my chinese name.. Hei Lan)

My first big tattoo… Black Orchids… (also my chinese name.. Hei Lan)

9) I got some new tattoos.. yep.. I am a tattooed bitch.. the cool thing about tattoos is that you can control what you want to put on your body.. and it doesn’t matter what anyone says… it’s very freeing.

10) Met the current man of my dreams….. Jet… a former gangster turn good… and a man who will do anything to keep me happy.  The sweetest kindest man.. I have ever met in my life honestly. If I was ever going to marry again… in the far, far, far future… this would be the man.

My man... Jet Liu

My man… Jet Liu

11) I decided to by an ebike.. yep.. after living in china for now 8 years.. I broke down and bought an electric bike.. that everyone rides here.. Jet taught me to ride it properly and now I am riding like a …. BOSS!

12) Found out that my recently divorced ex-husband remarried six months after our divorce.  Kind of quick?  Maybe that tells me that he had someone on the side.  He married a local Chinese girl… I don’t wish him bad luck.. but Karma.. my have other ideas.

13) I decided to do my own business here in China.. it is very complicated to know all the freakin’ rules here.. but with some very good “relationships” that I have formed over the years.. and my stud by my side….. I am going to get this done.  I have started putting together a clothing line.. for club wear.. ladies that are Divas… in charge of their lives.   People who are proud of their bodies no matter what size they are.  My new company is called “Dragon Designs”  I am going to be selling on and… and working on my own site.

My inspiration for my company name... Jet's amazing dragon tattoo..

My inspiration for my company name… Jet’s amazing dragon tattoo..

I am really trying to start preparing for my future retirement business.  Oh know I will never stop working and stop experiencing life.. I just can’t that would be crazy.  I am now deciding on which country to retire in.   I am thinking either Malaysia, Philippines, or Colombia, South America.  Whether I eventually marry Jet or not… that is my plan.   Why not come back to the states? Well, I have realized that my life has improve tremendously since I move away… and I feel less stressed and less overwhelmed.   I love my country and I will never give up being American… I love being American.. and I will visit my family as much as I can… but  for me… living abroad is a good thing.  And from what I can see on the news these days a little safer.  I hope to bring my kids to visit me when I retire… for now I will visit them in the states every year or so.

So that’s kind of my life in review over that past year… there has been some crazy moments.. and some great  times. I have met many great people and did some great performances, like when I dresses as an avenging angel on Halloween.

Halloween 2014.. at the Bar... great performance

Halloween 2014.. at the Bar… great performance

What will the New year bring?  Hopefully… more love, joy and happiness.  I also hope there will be great success in my new business venture.  I have learned to live life to the fullest and not to worry about what others say about you.. but… Honey…. You only have this life.. make it Amazing…..Boo

Until Next Time…..

So now my dearest boyfriend Jet, has brought home a rabbit, on the plus side it is cute.. not like those ugly ass crabs… and it does not make any noise.    However, I know that all rabbits do is eat and shit everywhere… oh and multiply.    I informed Jet of this… he was too busy trying to hug and kiss the thing.   So, the rabbit came in a very small cage… I told him.. the cage is too small you need to get another one…. he said.. yeah.. he would… I also told him that he needs to get a water bottle so it can have water.   He informed me that rabbits do not drink water.   I looked at him in amazement and said.. yes they do…. he firmly told me … no they do not.   I told him all mammals need water.. they just do not drink a lot of it.   He said and I quote…..This is a Chinese rabbit not an American rabbit!….I was speechless.  I said.. fine.. your rabbit friend is going to die of dehydration… he just rolled his eyes at me. 


Now, it has been a few days.. and I could see he was being more and more attached to the small bunny.   I really hoped the thing did not die..or he would be devastated.   So, Jet comes and tells me that he does not want the rabbit to be in jail, so he was not going to put him in a cage he was going to let him run free.   I told him… I am not cleaning up after that thing….. he agreed and said he would handle it.    The rabbit whose name is BaiLan…(white orchid) .. after me.. HeiLan (Black Orchid)…. is running around all happy and wild.. and all of a sudden I hear… OH MY GOD….. I shouted out .. what happened?  Jet came in with a long face… BaiLan is hurt…….I was trying to hug her and she did not like it and tried to jump and I broke her foot.  I was like … you have to be careful… you always do not know your own strength.   He looked so sad…. and I felt bad…. I told him she would be okay… just give it time to heal.   He was looking pitiful…. and said he was going jogging… I said okay.. be careful.   I knew he was hurt and he wanted to run it off.

About an hour later, he came in and shouted for me to come into the living room. I came in to see what all the fuss was….. Jet had gotten a second rabbit Jet…. because he said… BaiLan looked lonely, she needed a friend.   I was horrified.    I asked him if he knew if they were boy or girl rabbits… he claimed he did not know how to find out…. I rolled my eyes and went to pick them up so I could see their sex.  Two girls… thank goodness.

The two rabbits ran freely through out the apartment with Jet cleaning up after them and yelling at them for going to the bathroom too much.   One day .. he felt it was too hot on the balcony… so he rigged up a birdcage… so it could hang off the balcony, covered it with a towel… and tied an umbrella to it… so they could have shade.. but go to the bathroom over the balcony… (feeling bad for the people walking by)….. so he took the rabbits jogging with him… yes people .. he takes them jogging…. and he stopped to clean their small cage.. and let them run and someone came up behind and took .. Little Jet…. and evidently BaiLan hid so she could not be found.


Jet came home devastated… that someone would have the balls to steal his baby right out from under him.   He was not happy…. I said… well… I guess it was not meant to be for you to have two rabbits. 

Now it has been a month with BaiLan… her foot is healed and she is running wildly around the apartment with Jet telling her to stop going to the bathroom so much.    During this time… Jet has taught her to come when he taps the floor and stand up when he whistles.   (I did not even know rabbits could do tricks)…. She follows him around the apartment like a dog… and seems to eat what ever he gives her… even rice…(who knew)…. I did get a water bottle as a gift for him… so the damn thing won’t die… he still argues that she does not need it… I said.. fine but just hang it in there just in case.

So now .. .we are a dysfunctional family.. of Me, Jet… that damn rabbit… that is actually kind of cute….

Until Next Time。。。。。。

Sooo… we are back… and now I am still in shock over seeing those scary ass crabs… I told Jet… I do not want those things in the house.. or near me.. for any reason.  He tried to explain that when they get bigger they will be good to eat…. I just frowned and said.. no, no, no and no….. he said… he said… I like them .. they look mean… and the move fast…. I told him that was not helping.


He promised they would stay on the balcony and I will never have to see them. He would take care of them until they were big enough to eat.  I told him I was not eating those damn things.  So, weeks passed… and one night Jet went to

KTV for boys night.. and I came home.  I put my bags down and went to the bathroom.  When I came out I decided to fix myself something to eat.  So I walked into the kitchen… and all of a sudden something scurried across the floor with great speed.  I screamed… it looked like a really big spider.   I went to get a shoe so I could try to kill it.    I tiptoed back into the kitchen with the shoe in my hand above my head…. looking for that big ass spider.   It scurried back across the floor… it was not a spider… it was one of those damn crabs… it got out and it was in the house.   I ran like hell to find something to cover the thing… so it would stop running around the kitchen… I found a shoe box and threw it on top of the crab.. and ran into the bedroom and shut the door.   I was crying by now… and quickly got on the phone to call Jet….. …………………….Now, Jet does not speak English.. and I could not remember the word for crab in Chinese… so I was calling it … a thing….. I said .. that thing is loose... he was like what?  I said.. the thing, thing that runs fast…. he was like … what are you talking about?  By this time .. I was hysterical.. crying and yelling at him to come home…. because it was going to kill me.   He was like….  Jo, I am not with any girls.. it’s just me and the guys… you do not have to make up stories to get me to come home.  I had lost it by then.. and told him to bring his arse home… I needed him.

About 15 minutes later, he walked in and opened the bedroom door…yes I was still locked in the bedroom… he looked at me concerned and said .. Are you okay?  I told him to go in the kitchen and kill it.  He walked into the kitchen with a confused look on his face… and was looking around in the cabinets.. and on the floor… I told him to look under the box…. he slowly lifted the box and that stupid crab took off….It startled Jet… I know he was not expecting it… but then he started laughing….I reminded it him it was not funny and I could have died.  He said he would take it to the river and let it go… all of them… because I am so crazy…

So, he left and went to the river… to get rid of the crabs.  I felt much better.   However, three days later… I saw Jet.. acting strange…quietly looking around on the floor for something.   I was sitting at the computer but I asked him what he was doing.   He just looked up at me and started laughing….. He said…..It is back… the crab found its way back into the apartment.  I was like WTH? … I jumped up on the chair and shouted get it… it ran across the floor and Jet was chasing it … it did not help that he was laughing hysterically the whole time…and had to stop several times to wipe his tears from his eyes.    Finally, he caught it… and I just said… Kill the damn thing…. 

I did not even know how a crab can climb to the 4th floor… I told him.. never again will I eat crab or even look at them. He agreed it had not been the best idea and promised no more aquatic animals.

A week later….. yes… wait for it….. I came home… and Jet was yet again.. excited… I figured he found something else… snakes, pigs, chickens…. heaven forbid…. I walked out on the balcony and saw it…… a rabbit… staring back at me…. Oh boy… what am I in for now….

Until Next time……

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